The Couple From ...

I have not posted for a long time.

I have since resigned the church & felt very dead inside --- too lost to write anything.

There was a family in the church that without even hesitating - was the most demonic / manipulative / money focused / greedy / massively dysfunctional / controlling / self centered / deceptive / shallow couple I have EVER met in my entire life. Plus the things that they have said to me are unbelievably mean. There were SO MANY THINGS THAT I COULD NOT TELL THE CHURCH ABOUT THEM THAT WOULD BLOW THEIR MINDS.

These people are like ... German concentration camp mean. When I was in Israel watching a documentary on the holocost recently they had many interviews with some of the guards & nazis. I truly swear to you that some of the things they said & the way they said them were like this couple. Domination / elimination / superiority / even torture --- it was haunting how similar this couple is in their psychological state to Nazi germany. Needless to say --- they are the main reason we are no longer at the church.

They absolutely 100% stole & sucked the life out of me for 3-4 years - I feel like I have aged 10 years in 3. They are so fake & shallow, but have the "show" or the "game" down. They can snake their way into any situation with a few slaps on the back & a bunch of compliments.

People are instantly impressed. But I know what they are really like & that has been misery.

They are so money centered & are very arrogant about their stable money situation. They are worth probably a $1,000,000 dollars with money & their paid off house. Yes, I know absolutely for SURE they have a million dollars because in 1990 the wife inherited over $250,000 & they have just sat on it in mutual funds through the tech boom etc. & now they have $700,000 - $800,000 cash plus the house.

They won't go to mcdonalds for a dollar hamburger with everyone --- actually --- check that --- they say, "we'll just sit their with you - we don't need to spend the money" How awkward is that when everyone is eating, & they are just sitting there with nothing - kids included. The wife's time & milage are constantly calculated & calibrated to review her gas output for the week --- and chided if she drove too much. Enough of that --- but it is difficult to be with someone SO greedy & money centered.

They made their way into the leadership & began to systematically destroy the church with their ideas & opinions. To be honest I am not sure they are even saved. They show no signs of a spiritual life & neither could even tell you basic spiritual principles. They are so thorough in their game that they spend their time trying to find ways to "say this next time you see them ok" or "I'll just cover for you & tell them that you really like that person or the Bible study".

The hard part is that I saw all of this from almost day one, but believed that God brought them to me to help them discover their true self in Jesus. They have NEVER had a friend either. NEVER --- in 45 years! No one wants to be with them -- they are relationship killers. They are SO over the top self centered that no one can exist in that world except them. The funny thing is that they don't even like each other! The just stay together because he like her money & she would feel that God would kill her if she got a divorce.

I spent many, many (as in hundreds & hundreds) of hours in conversation about faith & marriage & life --- come to find out that all it was, was an "information gathering" time so they could precisely determine their strategy for the next conversation.

I have talked to literally 20-30 people here & there (mostly at his work) about the husband & they all say the same things that I am saying. He is a sneaky, manipulating snake of a guy who would sell his soul for power & control. The kind of guy who you swear is on your side before a meeting & when you get into it he has already been talking to the supervisor to negotiate a better deal for himself & the other guy is screwed. He only cares about self preservation --- and quite honestly both their families are over the top dysfunctional in that same way. Both husband & wife's families have very serious mental illness throughout the family tree. A lot of obsessive compulsive / depression / anger / relationship issues. But, I thought there could be some change & healing at the church.

WRONG

Anyway --- I am having a hard time with leaving the church, but it was time. It could no longer go on the way it was. It didn't need to be this way that is for sure

SO --- why the outpouring of junk? Because I have learned a number of very valuable lessons. Lessons that were downright painful.

The many horrible things that they said to me I will NEVER forget --- they were that caustic & destructive.

Let me clarify the obvious, that is why I am taking some time off, to let this bitterness subside.